It's simpler than might you think. First, it takes
recognizing that you are stuck, of course. Your clue that this has happened is
a realization that you are feeling frustrated, angry, helpless or resentful and
can't seem to get out of it. That's when you know something isn't right and you
probably need to make a change of some sort.
Next, you remind yourself that even when things are
at their most difficult, you will always have a choice about how you perceive a
situation and what you decide to do. You are nobody's victim...not even your
own. Will you take responsibility for how you are feeling and the choices you are making? You will always have your own answers inside you. Will you choose to
listen to them?
No matter what, the choice of how you look at
something is always yours. So be aware of how you are looking and what you are
saying to yourself...is it helpful? Do you have to be reactive, do you
have to be angry and resentful, do you have to hold someone else responsible
for your unhappiness? If not, perhaps see if you can find another way to
look at the situation which is more helpful? ...and there it is...in that very
realization that there is another path to take, you are free and unstuck...
Now is the opportunity to explore your options. Consider how else you could view your experience. Sometimes even a simple "I can do this", can go a long way towards getting you moving again.
So, what do you think...are you ready to take a new path forward?
Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer
