It's Official...The change has come...

My intuitive psychology blog has officially moved to www.intuitivepsychology.wordpress.com. The site is running smoothly and ready for you to check it out. I will no longer be posting on this Blogspot site. Will you take a look and let me know what you think of the new WordPress site? If you like it, you can sign up using your email and you will get updates when I make a new posting.

I just wrote a new post called Using Your "Quirks" as Cues (http://intuitivepsychology.wordpress.com/2012/01/30/using-your-quirks-as-cues/).  I'd love to hear what you think about it.  I've also got a page on the blog defining Intuitive Psychology (http://intuitivepsychology.wordpress.com/about/). I'd really like to hear your thoughts on that too.

Looking forward to hearing from you!

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

Change keeps coming...

Working on moving my blog over to my Wordpress account which will be linked to my new website as soon as it's done! Will you mosey on over to www.intuitivepsychology.wordpress.com and let me know your thoughts? Just posted a new blog today on the joys of impermanence. I'd love to hear your thoughts. If you like it and you're interested, just keeping checking the Wordpress account. Thanks! I'll keep you posted on the new website....




Be happy and well,

Sari Roth-Roemer

Intuitive Psychology

Will you check out my new blog at www.intuitivepsychology.wordpress.com?  I moved the blog over there so I could get your comments. Will you let me know what you think? I'd really appreciate it. If you decide you like it, just put your email into the side bar  and you'll be notified each time I update.

Hope your new year is off to a great start!

Be happy and well,

Sari Roth-Roemer

Meditation for a New Year

How about starting the year off right by listening to that marvelous intuition of yours? Find a comfy place to sit. Close your eyes. Get in tune with your breath, the in and out of it, the rise and fall of your abdomen. Smile…and listen now. Listen to your breath, listen to your heart, listen to your inner wisdom. Connect through your breath to all that is around you. All that you are a part of. Enjoy it. Don’t expect a lightening bolt of inspiration. If that comes, terrific, but if it doesn’t, don’t be disappointed. Instead maybe just ‘be‘. Allow yourself to just simply enjoy the moment for what it is. Taking time just for you to be quiet, to ‘plug in’, to just be you. Say a prayer if you’d like, or just listen to your breathing. Let your thoughts simply come and go, without holding on. Smile and enjoy. Take a minute, take a few minutes, take as long as you like. There’s no right way to do this. Just doing it, is right for you.

So, how was it? Nice, hard, easy, difficult? Will you make time for yourself in this way every day? Just a moment or two is all you need. What do you think?

Happy New Year my friends…

Be happy and well,


Sari Roth-Roemer

Happy New Year

'If you want to be happy, be.' ... Leo Tolstoy


Be what you want to be this year, my friends. Limit the guilt, limit the worry, limit the judgments and just be what you want to be...happy, kind, generous, creative, open-minded, loving, independent, content, prosperous, spiritual, successful, healthy...whatever you want to be...just listen to your intuition, set your intention and do it. Why not? What better time to start doing what you know you want to be doing?


Happy, Kind, Generous, Creative, Open-Minded, Loving, Independent, Content, Prosperous, Spiritual, Successful, Healthy (or what ever else you want it to be) New Year to you!


Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

What's in a dream?

Dreams...our psyche's journey into our innermost feelings. An open avenue for our intuition. No filters, no judgements. Just pure unadulterated inspiration,  if you are open to it. Are you open to it? If you are, try out this exercise that I learned from Dr. Joan Borysenko and let me know what you think...




1. When you awake, don’t move. Lie still. Keep your eyes closed or the dream will disappear.

2. Pay attention to how you are feeling emotionally and what your body is feeling?

3. Give your dream a snappy title (this will help you recall it later)

4. Rehearse it. Go through the whole dream in your mind as best you can exactly as it happened. Do this twice.

5. With the pad of paper you'll keep next to your bed, write the dream down in the first person present tense.
6. Write down any accompanying thoughts and feelings.
7. Revisit your dream log from time to time and discover how rich your interpretation can become with time.

Have fun with this. Don't give yourself a hard time for not recalling every detail or for not being an expert dream analyst. Be careful not to let your fears or judgements block you. Approach the dream with wonder and curiosity. You don't have to be Sigmund Freud to make sense of your dreams. All you have to do is pay attention and let go of judgement. Be aware of how you feel emotionally and physically in relation to the dream and use these feelings as a guide for your interpretation.  Play with it and enjoy honing your new skill. If you just can't seem to figure it out, talk about it with someone you trust and respect as a way to hear it out loud. Don't put more stock in someone else's interpretation than yours though...this is your dream. Enjoy this gift of discovering more about yourself and the issues that are/will be occurring in your life. Many new paths have been found at the end of a dream. So many doors open up to us when we allow ourselves to listen with more than just our intellect alone.

What are you dreams telling you? Are you listening?

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

P.S. Unfortunately, my blog is having difficulty accepting comments for some reason. I am working on getting the problem fixed. Until then, please feel free to post your comments on my FB page Doc Roth-Roemer: www.facebook.com/DocRothRoemer (see link below). I'd really love to hear your thoughts.

Why worry?

Someone asked me today, "if you stop worrying, do you lose compassion?" I love that question. It makes perfect sense. How often do we equate worry with compassion. This is of course, in part, why so many of us worry. But is worry really compassionate? Worry is fear based, while compassion is love based. Which do you think ultimately has more of a positive effect on not only those we care about, but also ourselves? Will worry help those we love or will compassion be better suited for the task? How helpful might it be to consciously separate the two and choose to focus on the one that will have the greatest positive effect? Worry or compassion...the choice, as always, is yours.

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

How to get "unstuck"...

It's simpler than might you think. First, it takes recognizing that you are stuck, of course. Your clue that this has happened is a realization that you are feeling frustrated, angry, helpless or resentful and can't seem to get out of it. That's when you know something isn't right and you probably need to make a change of some sort.  

Next, you remind yourself that even when things are at their most difficult, you will always have a choice about how you perceive a situation and what you decide to do. You are nobody's victim...not even your own. Will you take responsibility for how you are feeling and the choices you are making? You will always have your own answers inside you. Will you choose to listen to them? 

No matter what, the choice of how you look at something is always yours. So be aware of how you are looking and what you are saying to yourself...is it helpful? Do you have to be reactive, do you have to be angry and resentful, do you have to hold someone else responsible for your unhappiness?  If not, perhaps see if you can find another way to look at the situation which is more helpful? ...and there it is...in that very realization that there is another path to take, you are free and unstuck...

Now is the opportunity to explore your options. Consider how else you could view your experience. Sometimes even a simple "I can do this", can go a long way towards getting you moving again.

So, what do you think...are you ready to take a new path forward?

Be happy and well,

Sari Roth-Roemer

Try this...

Next time you are upset or angry, make a point of addressing the situation with deliberate love and compassion in your heart and watch how the landscape changes (for you and others involved). It may sound weird, but it works really well and believe it or not, the outcome is almost always more favorable than if you held onto the upset...I'm just sayin'...


Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

Can you find it?

Sometimes life puts challenges in our way...but if we allow ourselves to look beyond those obstacles, we can see the beauty that is still there to be found...

Try it now?

What did you find?

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

Why Is Change So Hard?

I had the opportunity to speak at one of my favorite places the other day, Vi at Silverstone, in Scottsdale, AZ. This is a remarkable community of older adults. It's a place you walk in and instantly feel happy and at ease. Interestingly enough, though, it's a place where change is a regular part of life. Now, of course, change is a regular part of life for all of us...the sun rises and sets, the seasons change, we are born, we enter into relationships, change jobs, have children, move, get older and die...just to name a few. The people there are coming face to face with big life transitions of their own and other's on a regular basis. Some of these changes are our choice and some are not. Of course, the one's that are not by personal choice are typically the most difficult. So, I came to talk about coping with transition and loss.

On that beautiful day, in that vibrant community, we talked about having an awareness of what we learned about change growing up and how that effects us as we encounter change throughout the rest of our lives. (Was it a good thing or a bad thing? Did it make you anxious, shut you down or excite you?) We talked about our perception of change and about being careful about judging change as good or bad, but rather, allowing ourselves to enjoy the benefits and the challenges of change. I encouraged my new friends to:


•Step back and get some emotional distance

•Take a breath

•Observe the situation as if they were someone else

•Be aware that a new perspective on the challenge could be a big help

•Ask themselves "How else could I look at this?"

I also recommended that they keep faith in themselves and recognize that they have a choice in how they respond to change. Rather than falling victim to it, remembering that not only could they cope with the change and manage it, they could also learn and grow from it. While some cocoons are tougher to emerge from than others, the result is always a butterfly.


We talked about the importance of maintaining mind-body-spirit balance as they navigated these big life changes. That means taking care of the whole being. Feeding, exercising and resting the body, keeping the mind active, and engaging the spirit through connections with others and whatever they find meaning in beyond themselves. Their wonderful Wellness Coordinator, Theresa, reminded us that self-care can take on many meanings. She told us a hilarious story about the favorite skirt she wears when she's sad and struggling with a change...something big and comfy that she can blow her nose in if she needs to! Of course, we talked about the importance of keeping a sense of humor on the heals of that example...


I reminded them that there isn't any change they can't cope with, if they told themselves they can do it! I will remind you of that now too. Change tends to throw us off balance. All we need to do to find our center again  is to close our eyes, get a deep breath or two, and remind ourselves that we have our answers if only we will slow down and listen...


I wish you could've been there. It was so much fun. Hopefully, you can join me next time...


Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

Passing it on...

I have bees. A whole swarm of them drinking out of my pool. I tried letting them do their thing, but they weren't too interested in letting me do mine...so I called the bee guy...

Mr. B, we'll call him, came to save the day. He explained why the bees were coming, and what they were doing. He had a little navigating around the side of the house to do and I noticed that he had a limp. When he came back in the house he told me his story of taking a fall off of a 40foot ladder while getting bees out of very tall tree with no branches to grab hold of. He ended up landing on his feet, quite literally, and in so doing he broke both his ankles. It was supposed to take him nine months months to heal. He told me with pride that he was back to work on the 91st day. He told me that his wife had told him that everything happens for a reason and that this did too. He wasn't so sure at first, he said, but later he knew she was right. With a BIG smile on his face he told me that he was wheel chair bound after the accident so he taught himself how to play guitar and that now he owned two of them. He charged me half price, shook my hand, and was on his way to rescue the next person from the swarm of bees in their lives...

We don't always think about how our stories impact others...but maybe we should? The choices we make everyday don't just affect us. They affect our family, our colleagues, our neighbors, and the people we come into contact with throughout our day. Perhaps that is something we all need to be a little more mindful of.

Mr. B made me smile and lifted my spirits. Everything about him was positive. His attitude. His approach to his work. His interaction with me. Even my teenage son noticed what a nice guy he was! He made my day, he shared his good energy with me so that I could share it with others...and he got rid of my bees!

Thank you Mr. B.


Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

What's it all about?

Love. One simple word. So much meaning. The bottom line of the human experience. We want it, we seek it, we are grateful for it, we miss it, we cherish it, at times we are scared of it, but we always need it. Some of us are skilled at finding it. Others of us are not. The thing we all share at our roots is our capacity for it and our desire to have it. And this is the big secret of course. Where would we be if we were all living consciously with love in our hearts?

Love comes in all forms. In all shapes and sizes. And if you look closely you have had it or have it now in your life. If you don't have it now, know that you will again...or just look a little closer, you may be surprised to find it in the most unexpected of places. There's no such thing as being unlovable. That's just fear talking. Love finds us all. So hug your friend, pet your dog, say a prayer, hold your child close, cherish your teacher, kiss your partner, look deeply into the eyes of the one who holds your heart. Be aware of and be grateful for your ability to love and feel loved. Because really, that's where our meaning in life comes from...through true connection with another. And that's what it's all about. Isn't it?


Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

On the air again!

I'm back on the air again tonight with my friend Ondre, on his show "Paradigm Shift". Always a lively discussion about the impact of mind, body and spirit on health and healing. Why don't you listen in...or better yet, give us a call and join the conversation?



When: Wednesday, August 17th from 8-10pm MST
Where:http://openmindradio.com
Iphone or Ipads: http://kwss.org
Radio: KWSS 106.7 FM
Call in number: 480-951-7733

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

Accepting Reality

What happens when something occurs that we REALLY don't like? If we get sick, if someone we love gets sick, if someone we love leaves us? How do we cope? Some of us learned in childhood that if we don't like our reality, we can easily create a fantasy. As a child that's really not so bad. Children learn to explore their world through an active fantasy life. Their imaginations are full of possibilities about their future. But how about when we become adults. Does preferring fantasy over reality continue to serve us as we grow older and take on the responsibilities that come with age? Delusions may help us through the difficulties of childhood, but they rarely help us as adults. Unfortunately, sometimes the fantasies and delusions that we create as children get carried into our adult reality without us ever realizing. We begin to respond to these childhood fantasies as if they were reality. So, what's to do about it, after we recognize that this is what we are doing?

Well, it seems the problem stems from judging the reality as intolerable and not O.K. Even worse, we may deem reality as something we can not cope with. This, of course, makes fantasy seem preferable. The problem is, nothing gets solved in the fantasy world, cuz it's not reality. The trick is, to allow ourselves to see the reality as something we can cope with and get through. That doesn't mean we have to like it, it just means we have to accept it as our current reality. The saying "it is what it is" applies here. Something is really only good or bad, tolerable or intolerable, because we judge it as so. And even if something is unpleasant or upsetting, we are still capable of dealing with it and getting to the other side, if we tell ourselves that we can...and if we're lucky, there may even be the reward of learning and growth as we move through it.

Once we allow ourselves to take a genuine look at the reality of our situation, we can deal with it...especially if we tell ourselves that we can. We don't have to have the solution right that minute...we just need to remind ourselves that there is one.

So what's your take on reality?

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

Frustration

"Oh, No!" "This is not turning out at all the way I want it." "This is never gonna work." Blood pressure rises, breath shortens, feelings of fear, anger, sadness, hopelessness creep into our hearts and we are instantly sunk.

Few things block us more than our own frustrations and fears. At that initial moment of intense emotion, we are often fixed on the problem and not the solution. We are telling ourselves over and over what we don't want to happen, what we fear will happen. We are viewing negative and often frightening outcomes. All our energy is going towards what we don't want. How can that possibly be helpful?

So what's the solution? Simply to know that there is a solution, even if we don't know what it is yet. I'm not saying don't get frustrated. That would be impossible. Of course we will always have cause for frustration. What I'm talking about is what to do with it when it comes. I'm talking about not allowing ourselves to get stuck in it. Rather, acknowledge it, tolerate it, and let yourself feel it, but recognize that there is an answer to it. The real trick is temporarily allowing yourself to tolerate the unknown of what that solution will be, and to just know it's coming your way...

What do you think?

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

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Check it out...

Catch me calling in to talk with my friend Jill on Paradigm Shift Wednesday, June 28th at 8pm PST at www.openmindradio.com or 106.7 FM in Scottsdale. We'll be talking about how to avoid stepping into victim mentality and what to do if you accidentally find yourself there. Hope you'll listen in!

want less, be accepting of more...a recipe for happiness?

What happens when we allow ourselves to accept what's on our plate? Instead of pushing it away, saying "I don't want to deal with this", saying "Oh well, I guess this is what I gotta do right now...I'll get through it and move on to the next thing." Allowing ourselves to accept and focus on the reality of the situation isn't always easy, but it is a step towards solving the problem and moving forward in our lives. When we try to focus instead on the fantasy of how we'd like things to be, rather than how they really are, we actually end up stopping ourselves by standing in our own way. The solution. Remind ourselves there's nothing we can't handle, if we tell ourselves we can. While our fantasies may be alluring, it's facing the realities along the path that will get us where we really want to go...

Be happy and well,

Sari Roth-Roemer

Find "Doc Roth-Roemer" on FaceBook

I needed to make a profile where I could actually interact with people, instead of just a passive page. All my info will still be on Dr. Sari on Intuitive Psychology, but if you want to be kept up-to-date with posts and emails via FaceBook, please feel free to "friend" me at Doc Roth-Roemer on FaceBook. Talk to you soon!

Be happy and well,

Sari Roth-Roemer

Live on Air...

When: Tonight, June 15th, 2011 from 8-10pm MST
Where: KWSS 106.7FM in Scottsdale or www.openmindradio.com

You've been wanting to listen in, but have been too busy... Here's your chance! Turn on your radio tonight to hear me guest on my friend Ondre's show. Always a fun time. Give us a call, if you have a question or feel like joining the conversation, as we discuss a combined energetic and psychological approach to healing.


Call in: (480) 951-7733 - Lines open from 8:15pm - 9:45pm

Be happy and well,
Sari

P.S. There's still time to register for our June 20th event from 6-8pm in Scottsdale...log in to www.shopondre.com to sign up now for an enjoyable and informative evening.