New Beginnings

What does it take to look at the world with a pair of fresh eyes? To look at things in a way that you have never seen them before? It takes a desire to do so, of course, along with a purposeful intent. “I’m tired of looking at things in this way, it only makes me feel bad, sad, frustrated, upset (pick your adjective)…it’s time to change my point of view.” It’s as simple and as difficult as that. It takes giving yourself permission to refocus your attention on to a more positive aspect of the situation. Something that makes you smile, or at least doesn’t make you frown. The most exciting thing of all, it puts you back in the drivers seat. Using your mood as a cue, catch yourself in the act of feeling frustrated. Then ask yourself what you are focusing on that is making you feel that way. Redirect your thoughts on to something that makes you feel happy, or at the very least, something more neutral. For example, if it’s a friend who’s upsetting you, think about something that friend has also done that has caused you to smile and let yourself focus on that for awhile. If it's a problems you feel you can't solve, remind yourself that you will be able to solve it eventually. You can return to the upsetting thought if you’d like, of course, but the important lesson here is realizing that you have a choice about where you want to put your focus. Good and bad exist simultaneously, we can choose which we would like to focus on.

Today was Easter Sunday and earlier this week Passover began. A holy time for many. A time full of symbolism, both religious and secular, focused on new life and new beginnings. The egg, the rabbit, the lamb, the butterfuly. Religious or not, Spring is the time to clear out the old and embrace the new. All around us we see evidence of this in nature to remind us of our task. New leaves grow from the branches that were shocked by the winter cold, bright colored buds give forth even more brightly colored flowers and scents. Did you have a chance to reflect this week? To think about the new beginnings you would like to take? To consider what old habits you may like to leave behind?

If you have had the chance, I applaud you. If you haven’t yet taken the time to do so, I encourage you. The reward is great. Not only may you learn something new, but you may give yourself an opportunity to experience growth in yourself. That wonderful thing that makes you smile with new knowledge and awareness, helping you feel as if the struggle was worth it…a butterfly emerging from the caterpillar’s cocoon. Take a chance why don’t you? Even if things are going pretty well, we can always benefit from a little growth, can’t we? What new point of view is waiting for you, if you’ll only look for it? Enjoy…

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

Coping with Catastrophe

Hope you will think about listening in to hear me guest on my friend Ondre Seltzer's radio show "Paradigm Shift"

When: Wednesday, April 13th from 8-10pm PST
Where: www.openmindradio.com or 106.7 KSWW in Scottsdale
Topic: Dealing with the Aftermath of Catastrophic Events
Special Guest: Melanie Bous will start off the show talking about the anniversary of the Titanic ...I'll be on following that...

I'll be joining Ondre in the studio this week to discuss how we cope in the aftermath of catastrophic events that create complete life changes. What happens when you lose everything? How do you cope? What are the stressors? How do you prepare physically, emotionally and spiritually? Can you ever really be prepared?

From major natural disasters to man made catastrophic events and loss we'd love to have you join in the discussion, share your story, seek advice . . .

Call in number (480) 951-7733.

P.S. If you listen in, you may hear us talk a little bit about our upcoming brand new groups and workshop series we're developing for Scottsdale and maybe even L.A.

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

The good, the bad, and the vulnerable

Ponder this for a moment...is it good or bad to be vulnerable? What's your first response?

"It's bad," was the answer I got from my patient this past week, when I asked her what she thought. And she's not the only one who feels that way. As with most adults who were once children of abuse, vulnerability is something to be protected against. Because from an early age it is learned that people can use this vulnerability to take advantage or cause harm. It leaves you open to hurt. If that's your early lesson about openness, why in the world would you ever want to be vulnerable again? But while vulnerability does leave you open, there is both good AND bad to be found in that openness, isn't there? How are we to truly and meaningfully connect to another if we aren't able to allow ourselves to be open? It's in the vulnerability that we are able to love and be loved. When we are too scared to vulnerable with another, we shut ourselves off from the very thing that fully sustains us as humans - meaningful connection with other humans. Love is the biggest gift we get on this earth, and when we are closed, it is not fully available to us.

So, what is there to do about it? How do we learn how to turn something so scary into something rewarding? Well, as with anything that is blocking us and causing problems, we need to be aware that it is happening and the choices we are making. In this awareness, we can decide what perspective to take and what choices to make. Ask yourself if you are getting what you need emotionally from those around you these days? If you are feeling like you are making the connections that you want with others? If your communications have become troublesome and stagnant? If you feel like nobody understands you? If the answers to these questions aren't answers that you're happy with, chances are that somewhere along the line you may have closed down or shut off in an attempt to protect yourself, but instead just ended up isolating yourself. For some independent people that may be OK for awhile, but eventually most of us will whither without the water of love in our lives.

Is it possible to to change your view on vulnerability? Is it worth the risk? Maybe experiment a little to find out. Tell yourself it's O.K. to be vulnerable if you choose, in order to bring closeness and connection into your life. Pick a trusted friend or loved one. Open up. Be a little brave. Share your love with them, a happy memory with them, or even a small secret. Start out small and work on your comfort level. Whatever it is, though, share truthfully and from your heart. Notice how it feels. Experiment. Open and close with purpose and intention. Be mindful of when it is important to cover up or to stay open. Learn how to choose and be flexible with that choice. Most of all recognize that it is your choice. You are an adult and if someone takes advantage of the vulnerability, you can let them know, and more importantly you can heal. A child learns the hard lessons, an adult is able to revisit them and decide whether those lessons still apply or need to be reworked.

Is it good to be vulnerable? As I told the thoughtful woman in my office who inspired this blog topic...sometimes it just may be...

Here's to discovering love and happiness in your life!

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

Change Your Life Through the Biofield

Saturday, March 26 from 9:00am - 5:00pm
New Spirit Naturals Corporate Office
615 W. Allen Avenue
San Dimas, California

The biofield - nature's natural force. You cannot see it, touch it or taste it, but it is the very fabric that holds our lives together. Without taking the time to be aware of it and understand it, your healing is never a complete picture. Learn how nature holds the key to self-healing. Learn about the potency of energy and your own life force. Discovery your biofield and the central role it plays in your health and wellbeing.

You've heard of "good"and "bad" energy. Learn how it affects you and your well being. My friend, Ondre Seltzer, a gifted and successful intuitive energy healer will share his insights about healing and teach you how to harness some of your own. I'll be making a guest appearance too, to talk about the role psychology plays in the healing process. If you're around the L.A. area this weekend, think about coming by to learn some really wonderful stuff.

Registration: $189. Call (909) 592-4445
There are a few spots still left!

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

Getting through the storm

Sorry about no new posts for some time now. Big wonderful day approaching in my family and all my focus has gone there. For now, check this out. I really liked it. Do you?

"At a time when troubled feelings threaten to blow you off-course, make time to sit quietly or in meditation and be aware of the storm. Watch the waves of negative feelings and thoughts as they wash over you. Accept their presence rather than try to avoid them. Observe the turbulence rather than identify with it. Move into the eye of the storm, into your center. Watch the storm die down and be replaced by a calm mind."
(edited from www.thingstobehappyabout.com)

Doesn't that sound nice? Try it and see what you think...The release comes from letting go of the resistance. Sometimes we need to be reminded of that.

I'll be back with you soon, until then, be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

An exercise for letting go...

Try this and see what you think when you just need a moment to yourself to let go of built up tensions and stress. You may be surprised what you find out. Let me know how it works for you?


Lay back in the sea of the whole universe. Let it support you. Close your eyes and just breathe. Imagine yourself just floating...fully supported...able to simply let go. How does it feel to just let go of it all and know that you are still O.K.? Allow yourself to enjoy the quiet respite of release. No struggle here. Nothing to do but breathe and enjoy taking this time for peace. Take note of the experience and how good it feels. Safe and supported by the universe in the moment. Knowing that this is where the answers will find you, in this space of peace, without struggle. Spend a little time here now. Smile. Breathe. Enjoy. All is well in this moment...


Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

Embracing obstacles

There's a lot of tough stuff out there these days for us to cope with. Our immediate response is often to get stressed, anxious, upset, nervous, or fearful about our ability to handle the situation. We look at the problem in front of us as an obstacle on our path of happiness and well being. We want to push it out of the way or "drop kick it" as one of my good friends suggested. In so doing we engage in a struggle with the problem, and soon, before realizing it becomes more about the struggle and less about the original problem. What happens if instead of struggling against the problem we embrace it, accept it, and work with it? Don't mistake me to say that I think we should be happy about the problem (ironically, that may come later, but rarely at the outset). All I'm suggesting is that we sit down with it calmly, accept that it is what is on our plate to deal with and figure out how to cope with it. Now of course, most of us do end up at this point sooner or later, but what happens if we cut to the chase and try this out as soon as we recognize we have a problem? How much depression, anxiety, upset and health hazards could we avoid if we allow ourselves to accept what is and tell ourselves that no matter how scared we are in the moment, we can handle it, whatever "it" might be, even if we are not sure how at the moment. The truth is, the longer we insist on engaging in the struggle, the more likely we are over time to feel the psychological and physical impact of this. When we say, "I don't want this. I won't accept this," does it make the problem go away or does it make it the struggle against it grow even bigger? Think about this. If you let go of the struggle you will actually clear the path for your answer to come to you. However, if you persist in engaging in the struggle, you will likely be so distracted by the struggle, the answer may be missed.


My son just reminded me of yet another perspective, while working on his science project that is due next week. Putting off coping with your problems makes a big mess of things too. Because while you are ignoring the problem it is growing bigger. My challenge to you is to imagine yourself embracing the problems before you now. Remind yourself that you are strong and capable and that you can call on the support of friends, family and a power in the universe that is greater than yourself to walk through the challenges ahead. Simply put, which makes you feel better to say? "I hate this, it's too much." or "This is overwhelming, but it's what I gotta do, I can figure it out in time." Push it away, or let it be, you decide which path will serve you best.

I'd really love to hear your thoughts...

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

When in doubt, always come back to the breath...

Times are stressful. When you are feeling overwhelmed, when you lose your focus of attention and the ability to consciously choose what to do or say, allow yourself to mentally stop. Smile to yourself. Gently chide yourself. Then breathe...ahhh, that feels good. Let your shoulders drop. Take a few more breaths. Simple, deep, slow breaths. In through your nose, and then open your mouth and let the breath just fall out effortlessly. Really pay attention to what it feels like to breathe in and out. Feel the air entering your body, cool and fresh. Then feel the air leaving your body, warmed by the heat your life creates. Smile at yourself. Smile at the moment you are in. Allow yourself to simply enjoy doing nothing but breathing in the here and now. Allow yourself to be centered and grounded. Thankful for the things that you have, rather than focused on what you don't. Moving forward into the next moment grounded by the simple, but powerful act of breathing. It's a tool you carry with you every where you go.

Sometimes simple is best, right?

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

*Inspired by www.thingstobehappyabout.com...check it out...

How's your energy?

Have you ever felt drained by people or situations? Our energy plays a vital role in our health and well being. Join in the discussion and call in with your questions while I'm on the radio again with my friend Ondre, the intuitive energy medicine practitioner. Listen to tips on how to maintain your energy. Call in number is 480-951-7733. 8-10pm mountain standard time. Streaming at www.openmindradio.com or if you are in the Phoenix/Scottsdale are tune into 106.7 FM.

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer

It's radio time again

I'm a guest on my friend Ondre's radio show again tonight (Wednesday, January 5th). Tune into www.openmindradio.com from 7-9pm mst. If you're in Arizona, you can listen in at KSWW 106.7. We'll be talking about how to face reality and move ahead in your life. We'd love to hear from you. Call in number is 480-951-7733.

Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer