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Friday, July 22, 2011
Accepting Reality
What happens when something occurs that we REALLY don't like? If we get sick, if someone we love gets sick, if someone we love leaves us? How do we cope? Some of us learned in childhood that if we don't like our reality, we can easily create a fantasy. As a child that's really not so bad. Children learn to explore their world through an active fantasy life. Their imaginations are full of possibilities about their future. But how about when we become adults. Does preferring fantasy over reality continue to serve us as we grow older and take on the responsibilities that come with age? Delusions may help us through the difficulties of childhood, but they rarely help us as adults. Unfortunately, sometimes the fantasies and delusions that we create as children get carried into our adult reality without us ever realizing. We begin to respond to these childhood fantasies as if they were reality. So, what's to do about it, after we recognize that this is what we are doing?
Well, it seems the problem stems from judging the reality as intolerable and not O.K. Even worse, we may deem reality as something we can not cope with. This, of course, makes fantasy seem preferable. The problem is, nothing gets solved in the fantasy world, cuz it's not reality. The trick is, to allow ourselves to see the reality as something we can cope with and get through. That doesn't mean we have to like it, it just means we have to accept it as our current reality. The saying "it is what it is" applies here. Something is really only good or bad, tolerable or intolerable, because we judge it as so. And even if something is unpleasant or upsetting, we are still capable of dealing with it and getting to the other side, if we tell ourselves that we can...and if we're lucky, there may even be the reward of learning and growth as we move through it.
Once we allow ourselves to take a genuine look at the reality of our situation, we can deal with it...especially if we tell ourselves that we can. We don't have to have the solution right that minute...we just need to remind ourselves that there is one.
So what's your take on reality?
Be happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer
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I feel that our society has become so addicted to living in a fantasy that most people don't know what reality is anymore. From all of the bizzare TV shows and vidoe games to the amazing disconnect in DC, we might as well all be on LSD for what sense it makes. I think the coming generations are going to have an ever more difficult time dealing with reality and decerning truth from fantasy.
ReplyDeleteYou may be right, my anonymous friend. I have to think that this is why I write this blog and why you write your response opinions. Dialogue helps increase our awareness, so we can learn to draw that line between fantasy and reality. As I'm fond of saying, faith not worry, will get us through. I have faith in our ability to get through what is coming next...I'm sure ultimately you do too. I'm grateful to you for sharing your thoughts.
ReplyDeleteBe happy and well,
Sari Roth-Roemer
Once again "GOOD DOCTOR"
ReplyDeleteYou have managed to get the the brain to come out of hibernation ..but now it's eager to be fed, after a long period of relative slumber..
It's now August..dare I ask is there more on this subject coming?
Guess my post hibernated lump of neuro fat will have to wait until your next journey into the secret magical world of reality..
I await with receptors ready..
Ondre
Thanks for your, um, encouragement, my friend...always appreciated. ;)
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